I used to shop at stores like Forever 21 and H&M but I slowly began to realize that I didn’t really like most of the things they carried. I wanted to be feminine and wear girly clothes that were pretty and flattered me. I didn’t want to look like a man.
The last time I walked into a Forever 21, I was horrified by the weird camo-print military jackets, combat boots, leather jackets, denim dresses, and hideous crop tops that were available. I had not been to a Forever 21 in six months and I felt like I didn’t even belong there. I almost felt like I was shopping at a man’s store because I could see men wearing flannel, aspiring to look either like a lumberjack or a soldier. None of the clothes felt particularly feminine.
Most of the clothes was not pretty. It seemed like F21 wanted to appease to the military, bohemian, and rocker chic trends none of which were particularly girly.
Here are some examples of which outfits I don’t think are particularly feminine.
It’s baggy, ill-fitted, and the girl in the picture isn’t even smiling.
Although this is fitted and many people in the fashion world think that this is fashion forward, the girl looks like she’ll beat the crap out of you if you talk to her and doesn’t seem approachable. Why would a guy date her?
This girl doesn’t look particularly happy either. I don’t really understand bohemian fashion but this top is hideous and unflattering. Also, the skirt is too short and barely covers her.
This outfit is hideous but her culottes (pants) are trendy. Her entire outfit is not feminine at all. Her shoes are horrendous. I like that they are heels but they are ugly. The makeup makes her look gothic and dead. The sunglasses make her look unapproachable.
But, even at Forever 21, although it is easy to look like a man, I do think that they have some cheap clothes that can make a girl still look feminine. It is becoming harder and harder to look feminine though.
Here are some outfits I wouldn’t necessarily buy because of the poor quality, but still like.
This outfit is cute and feminine. It’s a nice dress that isn’t too revealing.
I like this dress too although I wish it was slightly longer but you get the point.
The top is hideous but the midi length skirt is cute and a-line accentuating her hips/waist.
This trench is nice too because it seems to fit well.
A year ago, when I started this journey I wish I knew the difference between what feminine and masculine clothes looked like. After selling my old wardrobe on Poshmark which was filled with terrible jumpsuits, short skirts, and unflattering grungy crop tops, I made $600 to buy better stuff from sites like Ann Taylor, Hazel and Olive, Pink Lily, Modern Vintage, 6pm, and local department stores (TJMaxx, Marshall’s, some stuff from Macy’s and Nordstrom).
Dressing femininely and looking feminine is not enough to be a good woman but it sure is the first step to becoming one.