I was thinking about this the other day and I figured I’d write a blog post on men I would never invest any time in from now onward.
Oh how I’ve learned so much…..
I’ve come to terms somewhat with the fact that my future husband is probably not going to be a virgin like me but I also don’t want him to be a degenerate. For me, personally and mentally, I don’t think I can be with someone who has been with more than 5 girls. Don’t ask me why the number is 5 but I think anything more just doesn’t sit well with me.
I don’t bother with them if they’re enlisted because they usually tend to be young and either fall into two categories: have no experience and seeking to a gain a ton or douchey manwhores who think can save the world from World War 3. I respect men who decide to go down this track. My grandfather was a military general but I would never waste time with someone who is actively enlisted in the military because they are going to leave and their lives are unexpected. They don’t have true control over their lives and they usually are very stressed out. Most of the time, the military men I’ve dated wanted sex and had multiple apps like Tinder and okCupid on their phones.
A man without God
I believe in God and my value system is shaped by my religion. Most American men I’ve met are secular and have no faith. They also tend to be less grounded, lack a sense of purpose and tend to be more cynical. I don’t think I can raise my future kids as an Agnostic or Atheist. God matters. He helps us everyday.
I wouldn’t date a model or a bodybuilder or really anyone who has a huge Instagram following. I don’t really use social media much and I wouldn’t want him to either unless it was to promote a good cause. I dated a Portuguese bodybuilder for a while and he was very selfish and more preoccupied about his looks than I am with my own. Next.
There is nothing wrong with being proud of your achievements but I could never marry a guy who expected a supermodel just because he is a doctor. We ALL need to humble ourselves and our expectations of eachother.
A man without the goal of marriage
People always laugh at me when I tell them that I ask guys on the first date what they want. Most people especially in America think dating is a joke and is therefore, not taken seriously. It isn’t a gateway for marriage because there’s no expectation anymore to marry. This is why I tell men that I’m looking for a relationship leading to something serious. Some guys might think that’s weird and I’ve gotten a lot of guys not be on the same page but atleast I’m honest with my intentions.
A man who does not lead an active life
My future husband doesn’t need to have a 6 pack or be a bodybuilder (or anything close to that even) but he should want to lead an active life because I’m a fencer and I love sports. I did track in high school and I want my kids to be athletic. Also, I want to travel to cool places like the Himalayas and parts of South Africa with my future bebes. It would be really great for me and the kids if we could run marathons together and help raise our kids to be competitive athletes!