I used to read the manosphere a lot and there would always be talk of ranking people’s SMV. Now, granted, I definitely took a lot of this to heart and instead of focusing on being cute and attractive, I wanted to be sexier.
I made sure that I had a battalion of low cut tops in my closet, tight body contour dresses, and flashy colors that honestly didn’t even look that great on me. In trying to be sexy, even though I might have raised by SMV, I don’t think I got any points for looking like I could be someone’s future wifey.
Really, what me and many women should focus on is being attractive but not necessarily sexy. You can be attractive without having major sex appeal and here’s how:
I figured out that girls get bonus points for looking good while being mostly covered. Now don’t get me wrong, I like to show skin but you have to do it the right way. Anyway, modesty doesn’t have to be boring. You don’t have to wear cardigans with knee-length dresses and tights with flats kind of like a girl you’d see at church (not that there’s anything wrong with that but that outfit is kind of bland in my opinion).
What I’m saying is, women shouldn’t dress with the intention of being sexy. Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with wanting to look good to the opposite sex because that’s important! But, when women dress with the intention of being sexy, a lot of times, we lose our femininity in doing so.
I used to think that wearing tight low cut skirts would raise my SMV because I did look sexier in them but I also realized that by being that kind of sexy, I was attracting the wrong kind of guy. Instead, if I had worn something classier, I probably would have looked better and attracted a better guy who wanted me for a lifetime. I wish I would have focused more on MMV (marriage market value) instead of SMV.
I noticed that when I wanted to be sexy, I made sure that low cut tops and tight clothes were the way to go but I felt like my clothes wasn’t classy-looking and I was going way too out of my way to appease a man.
Here are some great looks which I think look feminine, classy, elegant, and attractive. Even though it’s hard to do it all, it’s totally possible! You don’t have to cover up completely but you should dress nice.
Here are some things I’ve noticed about classy women and how they dress:
-Usually they’re covered up for the most part
-If they don’t cover a part of their body, there is only one part you can see but the rest of their bodies are covered up
-3/4th sleeves are elegant.
-a-line dresses are classic!
– Blouses are nice.
-Off the shoulder shirts are pretty!
-Covering up your knees when you’re wearing a dress can look more flattering
-Wearing heels can make a girl go from cute to sexy and can make a girly girl look more mature
-Flats can look good but usually only with fitted pants that go above the ankle
-If you’re petite framed, knee high boots are great and go with everything
-You don’t have to show off a ton to be “Sexy”
-Dressing pretty is memorable. Dressing sexy is not as much.
-Light blue denim jackets can look feminine if done right
-modesty does not have to be boring unless you want it to be