I’ve come to the fact that most American women are, dare I say, somewhat delusional?
Now, hear me out here. Before you start calling me names, I’ll let you know that I’m not totally insane.
And I’ll admit to it myself, I used to be pretty delusional myself. I’m not as bad anymore, but I have my moments.
When you’re getting hundreds of likes for a sub par profile picture on Facebook while most men on average are probably getting 10-20 (if that even), you’re going to think pretty highly of yourself and you probably won’t question yourself.
Self-confidence is good. Loving yourself is good.
But we need to be realistic with ourselves.
There’s a difference.
So if you think you’re a 10/10, unless your name is Candice Swanepoel or some other Victoria’s Secret model and you’re reading my blog, you’re probably living in your own little world and you NEED to keep reading.
Still don’t get what I’m talking about?
Ask yourself this:
When was the last time you were critiqued by a man about your looks, appearance, and the way you carry yourself?
If you’re a woman living in America, this has probably never happened to you. That’s because if a guy did that, he would be in big, big trouble.
Also, ask yourself this:
When was the last time you critiqued your own looks, appearance, and the way you carry yourself?
If you’re a young lady and never have had to critique yourself because all you hear is positive stuff 24/7, you are probably living your life as a lie. Luckily enough, we can fix this.
It’s unfortunate that most men in America these days can’t even critique a girl without having his masculinity in some way shape or form insulted.
Don’t believe me, still?
When Kanye West made fun of Amber Rose for sleeping around a lot, her response wasn’t “Hey, knock it off, bud!” or “I’m not a slut!” (even those are mild compared to what she actually said). Instead she went on to insult Kanye’s masculinity. Bad move! Very unfeminine!
Still don’t believe me?
When Donald Trump called Hillary Clinton a “nasty woman”, most American women decided to embrace it and make art exhibits to raise money for Planned Parenthood, which kills babies (but shh, it’s a zygote so it doesn’t matter, right. WRONG!).
Women wanted to be nasty and identified that way. How unfeminine have we become? Even though at times, our President Donald Trump might use caustic language, why would I ever want to be a nasty woman?
Even Elizabeth Warren co-opted the term “nasty woman” and associated it with being tough, smart, and ones who vote.
To be honest, I would NEVER want to be a nasty woman. Who cares about being strong or looking like Liz Warren who comes off as a bitter, career woman.
The worst part is, is that this all has a trickle down effect when it comes to dating. Men and women in America are now more hostile towards each other. Men now have to be politically correct while women just benefit from the system since they are beginning to have more control than ever.
It’s gotten so bad that this probably would happen if a guy critiqued a girl about her weight in America:
Daniel: Wow, you’re a couple pounds overweight. Don’t you think you should lose some of it?
Becky (screaming): UGH HOW DARE YOU PIECE OF SHIT. YOU’RE NOT A MAN. YOUR MOTHER DIDN’T RAISE YOU RIGHT. YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO RIGHT TO INSULT ME. I’M A STRONG INDEPENDENT WOMAN AND I DO NOT NEED YOU, DO YOU UNDERSTAND? I’M A 10/10 YOU CAN’T GET ANYONE BETTER THAN ME.
Daniel: Well, sorry! I just thought it’d be good for your health.
Becky: *throws glass of water at him and exits bar to have a wine night with Maddie, Christine, and Lauren so they can talk about how much they hate men*
Becky could have just been not as aggressive but instead threw a temper tantrum which is pretty immature. The ideal thing Becky could have done is listened to Daniel and take his advice. Her submitting to the fact that a man wants a thinner woman and yielding to him is quite feminine.
Let’s face it, ladies: being a woman in America has become a lot easier.
Guys don’t expect that much stuff from us. And when they do, we lash out at them for it. Now, don’t get me wrong, if a guy is being an asshole to you for no reason, dump him. But if he wants you to look nice, be thin, and pretty that’s not a lot to ask for.
When you have hideous creatures like Lena Dunham and Amy Schumer (which literally no one finds funny by the way) roaming around being praised for pretty much just existing, we begin to lose sight of our value.
Here was 2016’s Pirelli calendar featuring Amy Schumer and Serena Williams. I’ve never met any woman or man who finds either of them attractive but because their female bodies have become normalized, we are now forced to accept them without critiquing them. There is nothing wrong with either of their bodies except the fact that as women in America, we are forced to accept that these are what women should aspire to.
Amy Schumer looks horrendous. First of all, she’s naked so I’m already not a fan but the fact that she has fat rolls is even more gross. She comes off as immodest and masculine.
In the past, we’ve had world-class, gorgeous 6 ft tall models including Gisele Bundchen, Miranda Kerr, Heidi Klum and others. These girls are stunning and have impeccable bodies.
Heidi Klum seems nice and feminine and shy while Amy Schumer looks like she could careless about having fat rolls. Gross!
Being naked isn’t that feminine anyway but Heidi Klum’s approach to it is more feminine than Amy’s.
So the real question is, how can we as American women fix our flaws? Well, first of all, we have to understand that yes, we do have flaws. They exist.
I’ve had over 30 guys message me or reply to me about things they just don’t like about us. Some of these things may apply to you and others might not. There’s a lot of truth in this but get ready for some criticism.
Common Complaints American Men have for American Women
“I like girls who are smart, enjoy girly shit, aren’t vulgar, and want to support me, not compete with me.”
“They are uncultured”
“Low self esteem, no father figures, no standards”
“Needing too many facebook affirmations and not forming real support groups of friends.”
“They actually believe a career will be more fulfilling than being a wife and mother.”
“Sleep around a lot”
“They’re barely in their teenage years and already consider themselves as grown women. Wisdom comes with books not with sleeping around”
“Most of them are brainwashed by feminism”
“They have manly voices”
“Sloppy appearance and swearing”
“Women were taught and praised to be proper, clean, elegant and now they don’t have to anymore”
“They don’t respect me”
“Too much makeup”
“Bad skin and are heavy set”
“Aren’t committed to men,need a new guy all the time”
“Spends too much time on Tinder, Bumble, Facebook”
“Girls lead me on when they’re already in relationships or married and waste my time”
“They don’t act like they need me.”
“Too fat and don’t care about their weight”
“They have a strong sense of entitlement and lack humility”
“Do not compromise with me”
“Do not listen to me”
“They can’t cook or clean so why should I bother?”
“I am a successful man. All I want is someone who can take care of the home and take care of me”
I know this might be a shock to some of you but if you made it to this point, I’m happy for you. A little criticism can go a long way.
Now, we can now start on the next step: self-improvement and fixing everything.